Archive for September, 2010

How to escape escapism

Posted: September 23, 2010 in articles

disclaimer: the following blog post does not mean that you should not leave your current context. Please just consider it before you do!

Jerry Seinfeld recently tweeted ‘where do forest workers go to escape from it all!?’.  One of the definitions of escape is – ‘to get free of’ or ‘break away from’ something. We’ve all, at some point, felt that need to escape and just be away from it all – businesses, jobs, relationships, marriages etc. Not so?

Perhaps, however, the only thing we should escape from is escapism itself.

This may just be me, but I find my desire to escape is most heightened when I am bored, unstimulated, experienced alternate scenario’s I think will be more fulfilling or I am just sick and tired (literally). I have found that considering the following questions have helped me escape escapism:

1.  How energised am I?

When we are low on energy our perspective shifts into negative gear. Escapism becomes tempting. You are responsible for your own energy management – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I am amazed at how a simple bit of exercise allows me to look at my situation differently and thus approach it in new ways.

2.  Am I living intentionally?

What we most need to do is also what we are least likely to do. Often we living in a reactionary way finding ourselves at the mercy of what the environment dishes out to us. When experiencing lack of time and space, the obvious solution is escape. Wrong. The way out is to be intentional about what we most need to do daily despite whatever habitual patterns or negative cycles it might mean you have to break.

3.  Am I connected to the ‘why’?

If we are unsure about why we are doing what we are doing we will experience doubt. Why did you start what you did in the first place? What was your vision? In a world where it is so easy to focus on ourselves, being connected to the why helps us focus on a bigger picture and how we can contribute toward that.

In a nutshell, sometimes the only way around is through. Your context may feel like a trial. That trial could be an opportunity to develop your character as you persevere and try new ways of engaging with whatever is causing your need to escape.  It may be preparing you for the next level which requires greater capacity.  

What could you do differently within the same context you find yourselves in right now today?

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Powerful paragraph on perspective…

Posted: September 9, 2010 in articles

“Paradigms power perception and perceptions power emotions.  Most emotions are responses to perception – what you think is true about a given situation.  If your perception is false, then your emotional response to it will be false too.  So check your perceptions, and beyond that check the truthfulness of your paradigms – what you believe.  Just because you believe
something firmly doesn’t make it true.  Be willing to re-examine what you believe.  The more you live in the truth, the more your emotions will help you see clearly.”   – William P. Young

A qoute in todays paper

Posted: September 9, 2010 in articles

‘the vocation for you is the one in which your deepest gladness and the world’s deep need meet- something that not only makes you happy, but that the world needs to have done’

Perspective is an interesting thing…

Posted: September 9, 2010 in articles

Over the past two days I have worked with a great group of people where the topic of perspective was spoken about at length. A bit of context: The company I am partnering has 4 values, one of which is ‘PASSION’. We know that a value such as passion can’t be taught.  In fact we hardly speak about passion. We talk about perspective. Because (positive) perspective determines passion.  Perspective is liberating. Our thoughts and our actions (which end up as reality) are determined by our perspective. It is so easy to slip into a negative perspective. A colleague once said ‘Nothing in life has meaning except the meaning that you give it’. What this means is that there is so much which wells beneath the surface when it comes to our perspectives. The more I work with it the more I see the following 3 areas in our lives either breaking perspective down or building it up.

1.  Our own self talk
What we tell ourselves determined how we feel about it and what we do about it. Simple!  We need to check our own ‘internal language’ and make sure that we are having positive conversations with ourselves.

  • right now what are you saying to yourself?
  • if you had to assess your internal conversations with yourself how would you describe your language?


2. Our limiting beliefs

What you have experienced in life has a huge bearing on what your perspective is at any given moment. As we experience life we develop our own lists of ‘I can’ and ‘I can’t’. So often the I cant’s are simply a perceived reality which is not necessarily true. Anything that begins with an attitude of ‘I can’t’ has already being marked with failure.

  • what do you fear most? how real are those fears in reality?
  • what can you do today that you would normally shy away from because of perceived beliefs?

3.  Lack of knowledge
I haven’t saved the least for last here. This is one of the easiest to work with. Build knowledge. Lack of knowledge leads to assumption.  Assumption and Perspective are enemies!

  • what can you read that is relevant to your context in order to build knowledge?
  • who do you need to speak to (what questions do you need to ask) to minimize perceived assumptions that exist?

We all want to feel passionate at the end of the day.  Perspective is not just a choice but rather an active daily decision which may not be accompanied by instant feelings of passion but over time will certainly result in it!